I find it helpful to think of it like emotional asthma. She’s a little wheezy right now. She should probably take things a little easier. She might need a puff of her “inhaler” (although if she does have rescue meds for mental health it’s probably a pill) but ultimately that’s her private business. She’s not doing her best but that also doesn’t necessarily mean she needs to be committed or even necessarily inpatient. Suicidal ideation can absolutely be managed outpatient in a lot of cases as long as there’s no active plan / intent and there’s a solid safety plan in place.

In fact if you’re interested in learning more about safety planning and other things you can personally do to manage your own mental health you should come join us over at !DIYMentalHealth@lemmy.dbzer0.com We also have a wiki that specifically includes a page on safety planning!

this comment is the best understanding of the concepts thus far

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So one of the things that’s super relevant to the self-soothe skill is pavlovian / classical conditioning. Basically your body gets used to drinking tea when you’re calm, so if you occasionally drink it when you’re not calm your body will be like “wait we’re doing the thing we do when we’re calm though? I’m probably supposed to be calm then.”

It could also have an ingredient that’s mildly sedating or if you have ADHD it’s caffeinated sometimes it can help you focus, which can reduce agitation. Some people will even say caffeine helps them sleep and while it can help you focus on falling asleep it will still reduce overall sleep quality (there’s other, better ADHD meds that can be used around bedtime for that reason).

So there are other reasons it might be helping you, but classical pavlovian conditioning is a common mechanism and a lot of behavioral therapies include teaching on how to exploit for your own benefit. I’m super excited to talk about this because spreading info on these specific sort of topics is exactly why I made this community!

Oh and here’s my weeks’ mood log:

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Those last couple worknights suuucked and I’m really trying to double down on my PLEASE and self-soothe this week (good timing!)

nope, but even if I had my long term plan is a complete rotating cycle.

Learning effectiveness was arguably the skill that had the most meaningful effect on my BPD. Learning to pick my battles was huge for me.

0/7 this week. I need to find a good app. If I knew how to program more I’d make one specifically for this sub where you could copy and share the week literally like a wordle but that’s for a future me who knows how to do stuff like that!

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4/7 filled day-of

Actually I’m thinking white for neutral and black for unfilled? Ugh that would mean re-doing the whole scheduled post… On the insights side I’m having s some terrible getting back into mood logging but half of this project is for my own well-being so 🤗

added to the wiki!

very true I have a similar mention somewhere in the wiki

100% and join the matrix

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oh idk if this is what you meant but when I try to change the url of the post to that it says it’s invalid.

if I just put that in the URL box will it work?