I wonder what brings a relationship to this point. My new spouse and I don’t do everything the same way and it’s a nonisssue, efficient or not. But I imagine nobody goes into a relationship where living together is stressful at first. What changes? Did money get tight? The communication stopped?
Yeah things change. Mostly children changes your entire life and things get harder and more stressful. For me this stuff wasnt the deal breaker, I did learn to live with it and many other inconveniences. After a while those things pile up and then they do other things that ends up being the final issue. For me it was refusing to pay her share of the mortgage and spending got out of control. We go into debt and then forclose on the house leading to bankruptcy to be filed. Last chance to make things right we try once more and didnt last 2 months before same stuff happened. Oh and she went out of her way to go purchase a new puppy while i had zero knowledge of this. That was my moment. All of this was over the course of 2 years as well so plenty of time to reflect and try things to resolve everything but nope nothing worked.
I wonder what brings a relationship to this point. My new spouse and I don’t do everything the same way and it’s a nonisssue, efficient or not. But I imagine nobody goes into a relationship where living together is stressful at first. What changes? Did money get tight? The communication stopped?
Yeah things change. Mostly children changes your entire life and things get harder and more stressful. For me this stuff wasnt the deal breaker, I did learn to live with it and many other inconveniences. After a while those things pile up and then they do other things that ends up being the final issue. For me it was refusing to pay her share of the mortgage and spending got out of control. We go into debt and then forclose on the house leading to bankruptcy to be filed. Last chance to make things right we try once more and didnt last 2 months before same stuff happened. Oh and she went out of her way to go purchase a new puppy while i had zero knowledge of this. That was my moment. All of this was over the course of 2 years as well so plenty of time to reflect and try things to resolve everything but nope nothing worked.
Oh man. Yeah that sounds pretty catastrophic. My condolences for the situation. Wishing the best for you on your new chapter.