My mom spent a decade watching her mom go through Alzheimer’s and dementia, saw all the signs, how bad shit got, how stressful and nerve wracking it was for everyone up to the funeral 3 years ago.
Now those same signs are showing with her. What does she do…lash out at everyone else, yell at them and alienate her entire family.
When you go through that it’s a relief when they pass (not sorry, it’s true) it’s hard of they estrange themselves while living then pass and youre left with so many what ifs. Just know my heart aches for you and I’m sorry you have to go through the many little deaths that come with estrangement and finality. Hang in there. Remember never to give yourself to fix others, in fact, a mom should not want it. (One without dementia) and would be proud if you choose yourself first.
My mom spent a decade watching her mom go through Alzheimer’s and dementia, saw all the signs, how bad shit got, how stressful and nerve wracking it was for everyone up to the funeral 3 years ago.
Now those same signs are showing with her. What does she do…lash out at everyone else, yell at them and alienate her entire family.
In fairness the disease might be taking away her ability to connect those dots.
It’s tough though. I dread dealing with these issues with my own parents.
When you go through that it’s a relief when they pass (not sorry, it’s true) it’s hard of they estrange themselves while living then pass and youre left with so many what ifs. Just know my heart aches for you and I’m sorry you have to go through the many little deaths that come with estrangement and finality. Hang in there. Remember never to give yourself to fix others, in fact, a mom should not want it. (One without dementia) and would be proud if you choose yourself first.