My mom spent a decade watching her mom go through Alzheimer’s and dementia, saw all the signs, how bad shit got, how stressful and nerve wracking it was for everyone up to the funeral 3 years ago.
Now those same signs are showing with her. What does she do…lash out at everyone else, yell at them and alienate her entire family.
In fairness the disease might be taking away her ability to connect those dots.
It’s tough though. I dread dealing with these issues with my own parents.
When you go through that it’s a relief when they pass (not sorry, it’s true) it’s hard of they estrange themselves while living then pass and youre left with so many what ifs. Just know my heart aches for you and I’m sorry you have to go through the many little deaths that come with estrangement and finality. Hang in there. Remember never to give yourself to fix others, in fact, a mom should not want it. (One without dementia) and would be proud if you choose yourself first.
If you’re an adult you don’t have to spend any time at all with them.
Don’t blame the fire if you’re choosing to keep sticking your hand into it.
Become a spacetime lord like Wesley
Was Beverly a bad mother?
Would you like Casper as a stepdad?
How my Dad describes his family growing up.
I’m 40 and I have told my 10 year old about my birth parents and their horrors. Not at length. Curious if you think this is a good thing? I do think it helps bring perspective, my kiddo is full of joy and gratitude but I dont want to burden her so I keep it short. How did it effect your relationship?
It’s definitely a more adult conversation. As a younger child until you spend time at other people’s houses, it’s hard to imagine how other people few up beyond one’s self.
It’s also a strange thing to have your parent tell you that grandma and grandpa were not great parents. Grandkids get spoiled and so it’s discordant to hear they’re not great, but they’re nice to you. It takes a more mature brain to process.
