… and my kids

“Hey Kiddos! So I have some good news and some bad news…”

As others have mentioned, video downloaders works. Personally, I would either use a VPN or proxy. I don’t have this problem in my state but when I traveled through Oklahoma I just used a VPN and it worked just fine.

The problem with downloading porn, I learned many moons ago before “tube” websites made it so accessible, is that unless you constantly hunt for new stuff it’s a waste of space as porn doesn’t have a ton of rewatch value (for me at least). So you amass a collection and then the collection gets boring after some watches/views.

If you happen to use a DNS-based ad blocking/security service such as NextDNS, ControlD, or whatever you can also often just have your DNS queries route out of another region. Doing that can get you around some regional stuff because you’ll get service URL’s and IP’s back from DNS for that other region, so you can skip the VPN and still get what you’re looking for. But that’s most useful for things like getting UK shows in your Netflix TV app. For your use case I would just VPN.

That said, if you’re set on downloading your porn, yt-dlp is the gold standard for ripping video off of the Internet. I haven’t tried it myself, but a cursory search seems to confirm that it’ll work with sites like PornHub (it’s apparently hit or miss depending on the site). You might still need a VPN for the content to not be blocked though.

I’m obviously not OP but the first thing that comes to mind are attacks like the one that targeted xz. Open source developers are generally overloaded between demands from the community and their regular lives, and they also lack the means and ability to check the background of everyone contributing code or vying for maintainer status. This creates the risk that somebody with bad intentions works their way into a position of some power over the code that gets merged. Bigger projects with strict governance and an active community of contributors (or funding for dedicated developers to maintain control and check outside contributions) have much smaller risk in this regard.

It’s unfortunate that remote work is going away for many places, but it isn’t gone. There are remote work jobs out there, though the competition for them is fierce. Everyone has a different path, but let me share mine and hopefully it helps you. I

, too, work in IT, and when I got my start in IT beyond bench tech work there was almost nothing as far as jobs that could put me on a good career path. I had a GED, no certifications, but I’m a quick study and taught myself enough to combine it with a silver tongue and talk myself into a remote job. In the meantime I decide that I need to build up a network, so I start hanging in the r/msp Discord server and mostly lurk except to chime in to help when someone has a technical issue or needs help. Over time I get more active and establish a bit of a reputation with the regulars as a smart and helpful guy. So when I eventually put out there on the Discord server that I was looking for my next opportunity I got DM’d with 4 different job offers that same day. All but 1 required that I move to a higher cost of living area, and I made sure that the pay made sense for the area.

I took a job in a very expensive area with a lot of tech work available so that I have actual prospects around me, work it for almost 4 years, and then meet a guy who would be my boss for the next 3 jobs that followed. Now I’m very established in my career, and I can safely say that cultivating relationships with people did as much, if not more, for my career than the technical knowledge I’ve racked up has. Sure, my knowledge and experience were the reason I was hired, but I would probably still be a bench tech or help desk guy now if I had never made relationships with people who could help get me past the mountain of ATS-screened resumes and put me in front of an interviewer.

So the takeaway here is that, based on my singular experience, studying up and submitting applications aren’t enough in today’s job market. You need to get to know people, and you need to get to know people in different job markets in particular. My recommendation is to find a place where IT folk gather and just try to be friendly and helpful.

You got a lot of distro recommendations from across the spectrum and it’s honestly hard to go wrong with any of them. It’s mostly a matter of preference. As such I’ll give you two pieces of advice:

1. Set up a multi-boot flash drive (assuming you’re currently using Windows, YUMI is a great utility) so that your can try a bunch of them and see what jives with you most. A great feature of Linux installers is that you can actually run the entire OS, full-featured, from the ISO. So grab a whole slew of them, throw them on the flash drive, and spend some time taking them for a spin.
2. Do your research on compatibility. Laptop makers often don’t make Linux drivers, so the latest hardware has compatibility problems until the community covers the gap. There are also some laptop manufacturers that have Linux in mind when they make their products, like System 76 and Framework.

Good luck! IMO getting into Linux for the first time is a fun journey. Enjoy it!