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  • Hey! I’m a psychologist who also happens to be a gamer and be in a relationship. I have something to add.

    Your real problem isn’t really about gaming. You could change gaming to any activity, and your complaint would remain valid. Your real problem is me-time vs. we-time. The exact balance of the two and what programs are included will be different in every relationship. You need to communicate and find a balance that works for both of you.

    Gaming is a fun hobby, but when it starts hurting other areas of one’s life, you need to address them. For me time spent with my girl is important, so I usually don’t game in the evening, we watch a show together.








  • Keep your promises and be predictable. Predictability and clear rules and consequences create a sense of security and it will make it easier for them to comply. Treat them with respect, they are small, not stupid. Treat them kindly but firmly, what they want isn’t always what they need.

    You also might want to talk with the parents about this, they know their kids best and can give specific advice. What works with one kid, might not work with the other.