• Awoo [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      2 years ago

      Does my username make me look like a dude to you? Why are liberals so fucking awful? It’s only ever you. Nobody in the left does this.

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        Your lack of social understanding is showing through. Maybe if you lived in any of the countries you disparage all day long (or just did something useful and constructive with your life besides troll farming), you might understand that “dude” is gender neutral these days. But sure, I’m sorry if my usage of “dude” really exacted a heavy load of social injustice upon you.

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          “Dude” can be gender neutral but given the context of it in your response it really fucking looks like a microaggression against her for being trans

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          My lack of social understanding? Gender neutral?

          I have to smash through the wall like Hbomberguy right now

          “DO YOU FUCK DUDES? AnomalousBit?”

          Do you go around telling other people that you fuck dudes? What do other people assume you mean when you say that you fuck dudes?

          You could have just been like “Yeah you’re right, sorry I didn’t mean to misgender you.” but instead you doubled down on being a transphobic dickhead and literally proved my point about liberals being shitbags in the process.

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            “DO YOU FUCK DUDES? AnomalousBit?”

            Do you go around telling other people that you fuck dudes?

            Would it be a problem if he went around and said he fucked dudes?

            I’m confused, are you using gays as an insult here? That’s messed up if so, so I hope that’s not what you meant.

            I do agree on your comment about the usage of wrong pronouns though, you shouldn’t have had that happen.

            • BurgerPunk [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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              No, it wouldn’t be a problem if he said he fucked dudes. The implication though is that “dudes” is a gendered term. The complaint is that she was misgendered by someone who then doubled down on the misgendering. Her statement was not homophobic.

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                No, it wouldn’t be a problem if he said he fucked dudes.

                I know it wouldn’t be, but making the argument that “you don’t want to accidentally sound like you’re gay” is not the counter argument you might think it is, which is why I was asking her about her intent with that.

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                    I agree with that, she clearly isn’t, as her pronouns clearly indicate. I’ve made that pretty clear in my first comment as well, I guess you missed it. That’s not what I’m talking about however.

                    My comment is about using “fucking dudes” as a negative example, I’d have preferred if a different example would be used rather than scaring the straight (I assume he is) their possible internal homophobia to realise dude is a gendered term. As there is nothing wrong with fucking a dude, he could be fully okay with that, and that would be fine.

                    As the poster’s pronouns are close to her heart, my sexuality is also close to mine, and fighting negative connotations surrounding that is something I can’t stop doing, I do hope you see that.

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                    I didn’t disagree with that, in fact I agree with her response in that regard as I’ve written.

                    If that specific argument came from anyone but a hexbear user I would’ve thought some pretty unkind things about the person on the other end, as of now I just think it’s an accidental comment that wasn’t intended, but I can’t not point it out as it’s the exact language that would be used to scare the gays back into the closet when I was in school. “Oh you better not do that, you might look gay”, one I’m all too familiar with.

                    There were plenty of other analogies that didn’t involve gay, or fucking men as an apparent negative thing