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  • I think it might be worthwhile to reflect on the fact that your parents were not just parents, but also human beings themselves. We tend to hold our parents to standards we would never hold our friends. Imagine one of your friends wronged you in such a way; would you hold this bitterness the same? Or would you extend them the benefit of the doubt and understand that in that moment they were not their best, and it probably wasn’t about you at all?




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    15 days ago

    I’ve spent a lot of time around dogs, even bonded with and liked a few. Still a very distinctly different feeling than human affection for me, and still doesn’t help me understand for the uncanny glee people get at the mere sight of a dog. 🤷‍♂️ I don’t know if I’m broken, but this seems to be something that’s just outside my understanding


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    15 days ago

    I do occasionally find people cute. But I don’t fawn over every person I see as if I’ve never seen a cute person before. This does not match my experience with the current cultural evaluation of dogs.

    And maybe this is the crux of the issue, but I just don’t find human babies and dogs even remotely comparable. I have countless lifetimes worth of conditioning inside me compelling me to love, admire, protect human young; innate feelings and instincts on human babies written into my very DNA. Dogs are an animal.

    I do sometimes find dogs cute, just like I sometimes find squirrels, lemurs, sloths, whatever cute, but it’s not an automatic response and it certainly doesn’t ever bring me to point of elation that seeing literally any random ass dog seems to bring so many others. I’m not even trying to suggest any judgement, if anything I’m just lamenting something that for my entire lifetime I have not been able to relate to or understand in my peers, which makes me feel somehow lacking, I guess.


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    15 days ago

    No hate intended, I promise, but I will never understand why people react to seeing any dog as if it were their first time seeing a dog. I’m glad we have them, and I’m so grateful for service animals in particular, I just don’t understand the hyper-fixation.